My sister told me the other day that I was “too kind”. One wonderful child addressed me with the words: “Aunt Vesna, you are crazy for being so kind!” And then the mother came…
There was a lot of love, but also reproach in her voice when she told me: “You have to think about yourself, don’t worry. You’re not 20 anymore. You can’t work that hard, dear child. And you can’t save the whole world. Well, just look at how many problems and challenges you have in your life, and you have given everything to others. Who will help you? I admire you. And will never understand how you get everything, what are you made of?!”
I let her finish her presentation because you can’t interrupt mothers when they think of something to tell you, you can just raise the white flag. We talked on the phone, so she couldn’t see the smile on my face… I just briefly told her that I love her too, it didn’t matter to me, I imagined…
You Have To Think About Yourself Too!
Life Is Like School, Just A Little Different
I was thinking about her words for a long time before going to bed that evening and I came to realize that it was not easy for me. But for who in this world it is? Sometimes I feel like a child at school with tasks that I can’t solve according to a given formula or some logic. School was difficult for us, the biggest challenge was the more complex tasks for which you had to go a little deeper into the essence. It’s the same in life. Only for our life tasks, which are becoming more and more complex every day, there are no formulas, several ways you can solve them, or ready-made solutions. But school, even the most difficult one, was a trifle.
Here you learn every day and only if you arm yourself with the most beautiful possible human qualities, you have a chance to fall asleep a little more peacefully and wake up happier. And there is no help. Listen, who will help me?! Well, I already have help. It may not be measured by the amount of money, square meters of living space, position, or power, but that help is at every step I take. How selfish and ungrateful I would be to the people I’m surrounded by, if I wasn’t aware of that help.
You Have To Think About Yourself Too!
Our Biggest Help Is The People Who Make The Difference
My greatest help is the smiles on people’s faces, the satisfaction due to the human ability to control oneself, due to the hope that there can be good people in this world, even if it is becoming less and less good. I guess then every mission has even more importance, every person you meet is greater wealth, and human happiness and satisfaction have no price.
When a person, in times of illness, wars, hatred, and disagreements, meets someone who can heal you, reconcile you, love you, agree with you, is there any greater luck… Then, in proportion to that good, our strength also grows, as if you get better and realize that your two hands are there to give every day so they could receive later.
You Have To Think About Yourself Too!
You Need to Eliminate Fear and Embrace Kindness
People are often afraid that if they give to others, they will be deprived of something, that they will not have enough of something. Thinking about my mother’s words like that, I’ve come to realize that I have had the least and was the least happy when I was afraid. As soon as you eliminate fear, which is not an easy task, it is as if you have less to lose and God gives you more. It interestingly generally gives you more reasons to be better in every way.
And you choose whether you will be that…
Thinking that no one is asking you for anything. And we are asked that at every possible moment. Even the smallest of our decisions, seemingly insignificant, are so important for our future. The only question is how good are they. The question is how many of us are…
It happens that sometimes a person gives herself and finds herself at hand. Even to those who are not or do not want to be aware of it. It also happens that some of them did not deserve it, it happens that they hurt you, but nothing changes… and this is an opportunity in which you can realize how much you’ve grown as a person…
That’s why I’m grateful to everyone who tested me as a person, and called me crazy and too good, I’m also grateful to my mother because she made me think carefully and understand what I need.
You Have To Think About Yourself Too!
What Do We Need?
We all need to think about ourselves, eat healthier, sleep for an hour longer. Maybe turn off our devices from time to time so that we can communicate with “living” people instead. Sometimes we need to be alone, sort out our thoughts, take a walk, and read. It’s also important for us to put ourselves first sometimes, especially when it comes to jobs that can wait. We need to feel when the body is tired and give it moments of rest and regeneration.
But at no time should that distance us from the intention to be people. Good people, hoping that there will be more of us every day. They say that by spreading kindness, we can be calm and sure that it will never leave us. It’s the same with love…
Therefore, let’s not forget that we have to think about ourselves, but also about the world around us. Let’s not forget, even in a dream how much joy is good and how much power it has…
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