It has happened to each of us that we need to forgive someone. And there were certain situations in which we asked someone for forgiveness. It’s almost impossible to live without experiencing someone hurting us, and very often these are people we love, appreciate, consider friends. The only way to continue living normally is to forgive.
Why Is Forgiveness Important?
It’s simple when you look and observe neutrally, but when you get into that situation so many times we are convinced that it’s not so easy and simple. Why? While it costs us nothing, forgiveness requires emotional preparation and courage. Numerous studies have shown that those who accept forgiveness live longer. And medicine tells us that saying “forgive” slows down the pulse by 20 percent, lowers blood pressure, and also the risk of heart disease.
The value of forgiveness is in the replacement of emotions and feelings, from the difficult and negative ones to the relieving ones.
Whenever you think someone deserves punishment and want to bear the responsibility and the consequences, remember forgiveness. Forgiveness is a process, and the first step is a decision. Psychologists even say that impulsive forgiveness is harmful because we are not ready, and perhaps not aware enough, and that is important to us when forgiving. Sometimes it happens that we understand the power of forgiveness only when we are obliged to “forgive” it to someone. I guess only then do we realize that we too can hurt others, even if inadvertently.
The Power Of Forgiveness Heals The Soul And Provides A New Beginning
Why Is Forgiveness So Powerful?
Very often we are unaware of anger and resentment, and these are feelings that instantly capture us and make it impossible for us to enjoy life. Unconsciously, it is as if we remain attached to the people who have inflicted pain on us because we continue to live with them in thoughts and unpleasant memories. For that to change, forgiveness needs to be forgiven, but that doesn’t mean relationships need to be restored.
Forgiveness will bring some kind of release, regardless of whether the relationship will continue or end. And liberation has such power that we will feel exactly that relief and change in our lives. It has no price as if you were seriously ill, so you recover…
It Is Easier To Live With Forgiveness
Without sincere forgiveness, we remain stuck in the past, experts warn, explaining that people who are not ready to forgive are easily recognized by dissatisfaction, negativity, and constant talking about, and going back to past events. On the other hand, people who forgive live easier, become relieved, and realize that no one is perfect.
What you need to know about forgiveness are the different ways people do it. Some people will do it with actions, but also those who will apologize directly and with an elaboration and explanation, sincerely repenting.
It’ s these different ways that are very often the reason for misunderstanding because very often those who are ready to repent do not get the opportunity to do so. Honesty is a prerequisite for continuing a healthy relationship, it must be kept in mind. Therefore, respect the language of forgiveness used by other people and their way of saying “forgive” to you.
What More Do You Need To Know About Forgiveness?
Is It A Sin To Forgive But Not To Forget?
Forgiveness is a term that is automatically associated with Christianity and belongs to its center. There are at least 4 reasons why you need to forgive. The first is not to keep injustice to ourselves, the second is not to live with a negative feeling, further so as not to be nailed to the past and ultimately not to take revenge.
It’s important to know that to forgive does not mean to forget, but it’s true that with forgiveness the memory of the insult loses its intensity, and man is relieved of his negative burden. That is why it’s correct when someone says that they can forgive, but not forget.
But one should know that it’s not a sin to remember what happened. It would be insane to expect that one difficult part of life can be forgotten and just erased. Not forgetting is not a sin. It’s also important to know that forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation, but it can sometimes be a consequence.
How To Forgive?
It should first be borne in mind that forgiveness is a process that a person goes through in several stages (steps)
- – Be aware of your feelings and accept them, with the decision that you will not take revenge
- – Recognize vulnerability and embarrassment and thus reduce the feeling of embarrassment
- – Share your experience with someone
- – Accept the anger you feel and the desire for revenge
- – Forgive yourself
- – Try to understand the one we want to forgive
- – Find meaning in what happened
- – Understand that you are worthy of forgiveness and that justice should be served
- – Stop forcing yourself to forgive
- – Open to what is happening
- – Decide whether you want to end or continue the relationship
- – Forget about unrealistic expectations
- – Be gentle and patient and learn to see the good in life
How Is Forgiveness Even Easier?
The moment we decide to forgive because we want to make our lives easier, forgiveness becomes easier. To prevent our body from getting sick due to mental suffering, to give ourselves a chance to live a more fulfilled and happier life, then forgiveness is also easier. Self-love and self-esteem move us to forgive because we do not want to be dishonest with ourselves and be a victim of pain. Hate is the opposite of love and only love can cure it. And forgiveness is love.
Love For The End (Love Is The Beginning)
Most important virtue in every man’s life is love. Love is the mover and goal of human life. A man who has not felt love cannot live, prosper, grow, nor see the meaning of his life. The act of true and sincere love is forgiveness. Forgiveness is extraordinarily important for the mental balance of each of us. Forgiveness is the key to quality, happy and healthy mental life.
Why Is It Hard For A Man To Forgive?
It’s difficult for us to forgive because we are wounded by injustice, and the woundedness in a man rebels against the one who inflicted that pain on him. We want them to feel some of the pain we carry because we assume it will be easier for us then. Another reason why it’s difficult for us to forgive is that forgiveness seems to us like a weakness, like giving in to a stronger one, it seems to us that if we forgive in some way we give in to the evil and injustice that has been inflicted on us.
I will never forget how determined I was not to forgive and how much burden I carried. Not knowing what I was doing to myself, I tirelessly shot the same movie and pointed out how much and how much my ex-husband and his mother had hurt me.
I felt like I was tied to suffering and I couldn’t move forward for a long time. It was painful. Now when I think about that time and see myself in the photos from that time I feel like there was some dark shadow on my face and around me. It’s ugly, uncomfortable, and painful for me to remember myself from that time.
And then a change followed. Step by step… I have a feeling that from that moment, and more than 2 years have passed, I do not stop going forward and receiving life blessings, of which there are sometimes so many that I cannot even be fully aware of them.
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