I Know It From Experience… How nice it is when you can have your mouth full and surely say – I know that from experience!
Also, it often happens that people are convinced that they know something from experience, and then it turns out that it does not allow them to move forward. These brakes, which could be called experiential loads and loads, are so dangerous. How much is mentioned the fact, even today, that on all sides, experience shapes us and that many people have become its victims. But the fact is that for them, what they think they know from experience is also their stumbling block.
As much as it can be our best friend, so much it is our enemy. First of all, because it can never be just good or just bad, just pleasant or just unpleasant, the experience is a colorful salad in which nothing is missing! Whoever manages, thinks it through, follows his instincts and feelings, and believes in himself, all credit to him! But if he expects that colorful salad to be his only guide, then that could be a handicap.
Experience As A Friend
It’s a friend, because thanks to him we learn, we recognize, we can do some things by squinting. And because sometimes it guides us and helps us, as if by some automatism, to overcome obstacles and go through life. The more you have, the more you should learn and function better. Your senses should also be sharper and the reactions in place. When one thinks a little, sometimes it’s more than our right hand.
It knows so much how to help us and inform us. It’s our friend even when we do not learn from ourselves, but by looking at the people next to us, therefore through their experiences. Experience also helps us to recognize a mistake when we repeat it. Many like to say that the only way to avoid mistakes is through experience.
And also that the only way to gain experience is to make mistakes. Makes sense. If you are learning to swim, you know exactly what to do so that you do not sink. If you ride a bike, you know how to do it so you don’t fall etc… Experience is a miracle! Especially for the actions, you learn, learn, learn and then you know.
But so much fits into this one word. To experience. Experience. Experiences. There are so many of them and they are so different. Connectable and unconnectable…
And It Can Be An Enemy
How to recognize situations in which a certain experience ceases to be our friend and becomes an enemy? Does he become our enemy or do we make it that way? Are we connecting what we shouldn’t, are we relying on some feelings from before that have nothing to do with this now? Where do we allow ourselves to put certain experiences in the wrong baskets? And why do we do it tirelessly?
Similar things don’t have to have anything to do with each other at all, but there must come a time when everything melts away for us. The machinery fails. I wouldn’t be sorry if many of us didn’t bang our heads afterward, wondering where our minds were. But that again doesn’t mean that some next confusion of terms won’t hit us in the head again. And then confused and upset, we doubt everything, we become distrustful of ourselves as well, and especially of others, and that’s a great way to blame the experience, not ourselves.
Sometimes It’s Good To Trust Your Gut
One great saying goes, “Experience is not what happens to you, it’s what you do with what happens to you.” I think so much has been said in these few words. I think we need to give ourselves and our experiences a chance. If the way you have been so far, the way you look at things and the reactions haven’t made any difference, why not change something?
Why not surprise yourself, do something completely different, the opposite of what seems logical at a given moment? What can happen to us that hasn’t happened before? Bad experience? So what?! Or maybe a good, great, wonderful, unforgettable life experience. Maybe instead of banging our heads, we discover that not everything is as it seemed to us and thank ourselves. Let the following situation remind you of that.
At one point I even started to play with my view of previous experiences and my reaction to those that were in front of me. I have to say I was surprised and taken aback. And on the other hand, those were not some big things that would have cost a lot and if it had been different. But then you find out, you allow yourself some actions to be the opposite of what is expected. You allow yourself to change. Try it.
I Know It From Experience…
Experience As Our Navigation
It would be wonderful if we realized that experience can be a kind of life guide and navigation, but we should not allow it to hinder us in our life plans… It’s different experiences that have shown how good it is not to listen to them at every opportunity. Because similar does not mean the same, similar inexperience, can mean completely different in reality and the future. That should be kept in mind… I tell you from experience…
Quotes about the experience:
- “Experience is not what happens to a man; it’s what a man does with what happens to him.” – Aldous Huxley
- “Despite all the honors bestowed on him, the experience is futile and unnecessary. No one has ever been able to use the experience, not even personal. The experience is old and bitter, hard and black.” – Matija Bećković
- Experience fails to teach where there is no desire to learn. – George Bernard Shaw
- There is nothing so easy to learn as experience and nothing so hard to apply. – John Billings
- Life is short, and Art long; the crisis fleeting; experience perilous, and decision difficult. As to diseases, make a habit of two things — to help, or at least, to do no harm… – Hippocrates
- Experience seems to convince us that only fools trust, that only fools believe and accept all things. If this is true, then love is most foolish. For if it is not founded on trust, belief, and acceptance, it does not love. – Leo Buscaglia
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