I have repeatedly wondered how to learn from my mistakes. It was not only about mistakes, but also about wrong beliefs. And who else loves mistakes or difficult life stories. I don’t like to look at them, listen to them, let alone live them… How To Learn From Your Mistakes?
And I have no idea why is that. Because of the fairy tales, I constantly read in my childhood, the essence of my being, or the real essence of each of us, because it’s natural that we only want the best. My being opposes all the injustice, inhumanity, deprivation of liberty, rights, opportunities or restrictions that someone puts in front of me. And yet, my beliefs, my wrong beliefs about life and its meaning, caused the most damage. A lot of the damage was done to me by my parents unaware that they did, just like their parents did.
Sometimes I think that long ago I had a sense of what awaited me and that my cheerful nature was something like a departure from what would come many years later. That was followed by a difficult life story, whose tails are still there, but I firmly believe that change and happiness will stay longer this time. I don’t want it to be like in fairy tales – they lived happily ever after – I just want it to last as long as it’s possible… In these mature years, I am learning to simplify what’s complicated and not complicate what’s simple. I am learning that difficult life stories can turn into something else if we want and if we believe in them.
How to Learn from Your Mistakes? – Gratitude And Love As Our Exit
When I look back at my life, I feel like I had to figure out how to learn from my mistakes, to make it easier for me one day. I’m not sure if I’m right or the feeling is lying, but I believe today I wouldn’t know everything I know now if it were different. And I would not nurture love, gratitude and, peace to the extent that I do today. And that is more important to me than most other things in life. I guess then life started to change, too. Today, I look at the outlines of a story that I would like to tell tomorrow because I believe it might help.
And that story begins with changing one’s beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and nurturing gratitude and love. Thanksgiving from good morning to a good night, same with love, and the result is wonderful. Because with love and gratitude you seem to grow a little each time, aware that if you continue, you will continue to grow.
It seems so simple, but it’s not. Because if it were not many of us would live all that they don’t want, their lives would tell a wonderful story. Many times I have heard that no story will amaze us, leave us breathless, make us tear and laugh if it wasn’t a difficult one. The harder the story, the greater our admiration. But then the understanding of life and it’s meaning is deeper. And we become even better people, and it seems as if our hearts are getting softer. And it cannot be just from stories that happen to others, because the best recipe for consciousness, self-awareness and for becoming a better person are our life mistakes. I could also sign this if someone asked me to.
Tears And Laugh Go Together
Tears and laughter go together, you feel this several times in your life when, without question, and even warnings, storms breakthrough. And usually, they are preceded by “blockage”, dumplings in the throat, numbness, fear. And it lasts a while until a volcano erupts from us. Then tears and laughter are a sign that you are still alive. And when all the weight of this world that has collapsed on your back survives, then it’s time to move on. Wherever that “on” is…
There is something more interesting in the moments when tears and laughter melt together. Happiness because we succeeded, fear of what would happen if we didn’t, disbelief and positive shock… The last time I laughed and cried was just a few days ago, when I succeeded in something that was supposed to be a finished thing, and it became so complicated that I can still hardly believe it. It was about my son’s health. But I don’t think about that anymore. I strive to paint my days with all those colors of growth and to leave my gloomy past where it belongs. I like to mention those difficult moments only if they will help me today, which is rare.
Courage Is Inspiration
Spending life in fear of it being difficult is the same as deciding that you will no longer live! How many times we were afraid, we thought we would not survive, and we did. And who knows how many times we have died of fear consciously or unknowingly, and what did that brought us? And then we heard the story of someone’s heroism and were ashamed of our cowardice. Just the thought of all those whose courage is far beyond ours is enough to wake us up and get us going. Maybe right where we want to but we think we can’t because we don’t have faith.
Why are difficult life stories and courage in them our inspiration? Because we know that what you give your whole self to can be the way to be where you need to be. As well as because we are aware that we have a chance too. Also because they remind us that we may be alone and it is difficult, but we are not the only ones. Because they remind us that life is a miracle. And they remind us who we are. Therefore…
Well, that’s why it’s good to surround yourself with big and brave people with difficult life stories. Courage stories inspire, they drive transformation. If we know that someone has succeeded, it will be easier to believe that we can do it too. This is a great way to learn from your mistakes.
Life Gives Us What We Believe
Indeed, life always gives us as much as we can carry or bear. But it’s as true for good as it is for bad things. That’s why it’s also true that we need to be careful about what we want because it can become true. All of us who have endured difficult life stories are sometimes embarrassed by it. We think that all the good goes to everyone but us. And we are not even aware that thinking like that we are hitting the final seal on a bad life and looking for more. Instead of looking for the answer to the question – “How to learn from your mistakes?”
There is no greater and worse falsity, delusion, justification, whatever, to give up, that swaying and feeding our wrong beliefs. I think that after years of suffering and difficult life, I have every right to tell you that it’s up to you. And when things get better, it’ll be up to you. Because it’s all about us and the kind of life story that we’re telling. And to the fact that this can change at any moment. Just thinking about where my misconceptions might have led me, gives me creeps. I am happy that they didn’t and I look forward to what a new day brings me because now I can see, feel. And it hasn’t happened yet …
In The End…
If we cherished only two things each day, namely love and gratitude, our lives would never be the same again… And at least in part, we would know how to learn from our mistakes. Wise people say that mistakes don’t exist, just experience. It’s up to us what we will do with it and how much we will learn.
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