I decided to gift myself forgiveness for Christmas. Holidays are the best time to do this. So many times I have heard the saying – It is divine to forgive. It is so simple at its focus, but not easily put into practice. On the contrary, it is very complex and difficult and needs to be addressed to understand it. Perhaps that is why Christmas should be an overture to us of approaching the divine while moving away from what is not. We don’t need to know much about Christmas to realize that it is a time of love and forgiveness. I know, Christmas is essentially a wonderful day with the most beautiful messages, if you listen to them and become aware of them, speak of our essence that we are sometimes oblivious to. Forgiveness for Christmas – Best Gift To Yourself
Forgive And Release Yourself
I have never had true enemies, but there have been many people in my life who have caused me pain, who have treated me wrong and shown how bad they are with their actions. These days, I think about them intensely and rethink myself. And I’m not even sure if I forgave them. When I think of the experiences of the past, the injustice was done and the pain I endured, I do not feel well. On the contrary, there is a natural need to explain to yourself these people, their actions and reasons, need to repay them, and a desire to be punished…
And on the other hand, I feel a great desire to take that unnecessary burden off, and so relieved move on. The right word is liberated. That’s because as long as you do not clear within yourself and the past, you feel trapped. And in that case, the people who hurt you are not important at all, the only one who matters is you.
One of the Christmas sayings tells us to give our enemy forgiveness for Christmas. I do not think it is a gift to the enemy, but ourselves. We need to give ourselves that forgiveness, because as long as we are not, we are suffering exclusively from our burdened lives. We must not allow ourselves to be stolen by the past!
Forgiveness is not needed for those who have hurt us. We must be able to live with a pure heart and a peaceful mind. Awareness, anger, frustration, pain, disbelief, rejection, anger, these are all feelings that burden our soul in everyday life. What can change them is the energy of forgiveness. Many think that forgiving someone means allowing him the opportunity to hurt us again. This is not true. Because that person does not even need to know that we have forgiven her or participate in forgiveness. Only we are sufficient and needed.
Through Forgiveness Comes Learning And Changing for Better
If we could see the bad things that happened to us in the mirror, we would realize that many scams were our betrayed expectations. In addition to forgiving others for the harm and injustice done to us, we should also forgive ourselves for the great expectations of the wrong people. You should be grateful for life’s lessons, your experience, no matter how difficult it may be. In dealing with the process of forgiveness these days and reading a lot about it, I read a sentence about the connection between forgiveness and wisdom. Thinking about it, I realized that it makes sense. Therefore, we should let forgiveness teach us.
Carrying a burden that leads us nowhere can only make us feel helpless and lost, we can only feel bad, and we don’t need that. The past can’t be corrected. What we need is to learn a lesson, not to forget it and repeat it tomorrow. We need faith in people and life, joy, peace, love. Because unlike toxic emotions, these are emotions that change us for the better. We can only feel better, feel our spiritual strength and size, if we forgive and clean ourselves from emotional toxins.
Expert And Giant’s Word – Power Is In Forgiveness
Psychologists state that forgiveness requires accepting that we will give up something, that something will have to disappear, and that it will hurt. But that it is worth every step. Because anything that takes too long, and so does the prolonged anger, is toxic to our overall functioning. In addition to psychologists and physicians, according to some research, they claim that our immunity and body’s resistance grow when we forgive. And they explain this by changing and normalizing some essential values in our bloodstream.
I know a few people who think it’s cowardly to forgive and only the weak do it. They mostly accept bad emotions, are overwhelmed by hatred, anger and live burdened with a huge burden. And they are unaware that this is the easier way, but not the right one. Mahatma Gandhi, on the other hand, said that the weak cannot forgive because forgiveness is a trait of the great.
It is not a weakness to make a deliberate and conscious decision to get rid of toxic emotions and help yourself. To forgive does not mean to agree with what someone did to us and what happened. It just means that we have accepted that it happened, not the way we expected it and that there is no going back. No matter how painful it was. That is why psychologists also say that there is strength in forgiveness. Very often people decide to forgive, but they state that they cannot forget. Experts say we should not forget this, otherwise we will not learn from the experience.
Reading these days of writing experts, I have seen that there is one term – hostility. It implies the opposite of forgiveness and an aggressive effort to change invariably. This means denying what happened and seeking to avenge the course of events.
There are also exceptions to forgiveness. Unfortunately, there are also severe forms of abuse where forgiveness is counterproductive and where the victim decides over time what is best for her. Over time, the victim is relieved of feelings of anger, rage, hurt and other bad emotions that temporarily give her strength. In the meantime, they will serve to make the victim feel more empowered and comforted. Bad emotions fade over time and with the help of a professional face and fade away.
For The End
One of the most beautiful definitions of forgiveness is, in my opinion – An act of actively fighting for your well-being!
Isn’t it well-being what each of us wants for ourselves. Here, Christmas is at the door. Let us show and give ourselves the path to that well-being with the power to forgive. We say goodbye to the desire to make things and people in our past good that everything looks different. Let’s not make it difficult. Let us learn how not to be the same again tomorrow. Let’s give ourselves that power. Let other people give us whatever they’d like for Christmas, and we give ourselves forgiveness. I surely will.
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