6 Truths About Single Mothers And Love

What Do Prejudices Say About Single Mothers?

Single mom?! She is preoccupied, she will complain, she will constantly ask for some help, she can’t wait for someone to take care of her and the child or children, who knows what she wants from me now… Don’t be surprised if you hear that single mothers are immature, careless, irresponsible, stressed, depressed, make bad decisions, promiscuous. They are in chaos, unstable, unpredictable, you can’t rely on them. These are just some of the prejudices of many men, but also employers, who are not even aware of how far they are from the truth.

At least in my case. But also in the case of my close friends, two of whom are great single mothers. On the other hand, some think that single mothers are an additional burden in their lives, that they are difficult, demanding, and hard to deal with. And they mostly support that by claiming that they need a lot of attention and love, and modern times have been reduced to a whole series of modern types of relationships whose names I don’t even want to mention in my text. He to whom love is just a shopping spree has never met love or does not want to meet it, so it’s out of the question for him to be a part of a single mothers life.

6 Truths About Single Mothers And Love

Can a Single Mother Find Love Again?

But that does not mean that a single mother can no longer love and rediscover love. Yes of course! But you should also know that it’s not easy at all. Unless a miracle happens. And if there are no miracles, it would be good for men to keep a few important truths in mind.

She still feels desirable even though she may not show it to you

It’s something she’ll only discover if she thinks you’re worth it. Although they sometimes carry some of their seriousness and coldness as a shield, that’s all it really is – a shield from the kind of people that single mothers have had enough of in their lives.

She does not tolerate nonsense

Many of us tolerate many things at a young age. In the period before we experienced the burden of divorce and extremely bad relationships, we could forgive a lot of things. But after a series of bad experiences, what a woman who gives you her trust is aware of is that she will not tolerate nonsense. What does it mean? It simply means that there is no playing, procrastination, acting, lying… An adult woman who goes through life alone needs a man, but a grown and understanding one, and that is something that will attract a single mother. She doesn’t need anything else.

You will be on her list, but not her priority

This may sound cold, ugly, and devastating to you. But it is inevitable, normal, and necessary. If you think about it for a minute, you will realize that it is better that way because otherwise, you might be falling for a wrong woman. What would you think of a woman and a single mother whose priority is only you? Certainly nothing good. So, after a little thought, it’s necessary to understand that the real wealth is that in addition to everything she needs, must, wants, and knows how to do, completely on her own, she also puts you on her list.

She can forget to give herself space

She may sometimes forget to call you. Not because she doesn’t care, but because under the burden of obligations she will sometimes forget about herself, let alone you. Remember that she’s never intentionally ignoring you, but her schedule is sometimes such that there is no free moment in the day. Single mothers take care of all their daily responsibilities on their own, and rarely can anyone replace them.

She may hesitate

Sometimes the bad decisions we made earlier in life can block us and slow us down when we try to make new decisions. So, if you care, don’t let her hesitation stop you. On the contrary, understand that she’s not someone who takes her own and other people’s lives lightly and just opens her doors to any man that might want to walk in. The fear of making the wrong decision can sometimes be stronger than the desire to let you in and allow you to be a part of her life. And remember, not only HER life.

She doesn’t need you, but she wants you

Don’t expect a single mother to hang around your neck and tell you how yo’re her world and how she can’t live without you. That’s not likely to happen. She is a parent. Someone who can do anything, and knows everything, because there is no one else to do it for her. She’s used to being able to do even the things she can’t. In a situation like this, she doesn’t need you at all. And this is good for you. Someone who doesn’t need you and who can do anything all by herself still wants you. That could be your biggest compliment if you want to win that woman over.

6 Truths About Single Mothers And Love

Are Single Mothers Lonely And Unhappy?

The answer is no! If you think single mothers are lonely and unhappy, you are mistaken. Also, if you think they are just waiting for you to come by, you are mistaken again. If you think they are not able to give enough love and attention to their children, you are wrong, once again. Many believe that the children of single mothers, in addition to the deprivation of one parent, cannot grow up healthy, happy, fulfilled, satisfied, and loved. This just means that many people know nothing about a single mother’s life.

Also, they have no idea how much love one person can have. If you have succumbed to prejudice, then it probably means that you will never meet that quiet fighter who can embrace the whole world with his heart. And that same world will never feel how much difficulty, pain, burden, and obligation these women carry on their shoulders and how much they have managed to overcome. Why? Because they don’t show it.

Also, read my text https://single-moms-way.com/10-facts-about-single-parenting/

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