2 Things That Kids Won’t Forgive You

2 Things That Kids Won’t Forgive You I am a mother of two children, 10 years apart. Many without thinking like to say that the difference is too big, but I think about it completely differently. First of all, some things happen just when we need them and are destined and I believe in that with all my heart. Second, no matter how much you plan offspring and want this or that, in the end, it will often be different again.

Admittedly, it sometimes happens that it goes according to our plan, but very often it’s different and the saying comes to my mind – while we are planning life, God laughs… Therefore, when I see my children, I am happy and satisfied and because of that that I have them, but also because of the lessons I learned by educating them, raising them and loving them.

2 Things That Kids Won’t Forgive You

A Parent Learns As Long as He Is a Parent

Now that I look behind me, of course, I would change so much and work differently. This would be done by any normal parent. As much as I was the same person and as much as I tried to be the same parent to both of them, I am not. Why? Well first of all because 10 years of previous motherhood has led to the fact that even if you want to, you can’t be the same anymore.

There are so many experiences, lessons learned, mistakes, good results, everything. And then you realize how much it all means to you 10 years later… Something else is also important here. Over time, I realized how much it all affected me and to understand what children never forgive their parents.

Sometimes I’m sorry I didn’t know this before, but these aren’t some catastrophic mistakes, which should get my parents off their shoulders. What is important is to know and not to repeat the same mistakes in the future, as well as to fix what can be fixed… A parent learns as long as he is a parent!

2 Things That Kids Won’t Forgive You

Some Things Our Kids Will Never Forget

Although I am considered a caring, soft and compliant mother in my environment, my children used to get angry with me many times. It happened suddenly, they were not used to me like that.

But for me, it didn’t happen all at once, but after exhausting all the other parenting methods. It’s true that children sometimes get angry in an instant and it passes, just as it can be the case with us parents. But there are also those situations where we really inadvertently hurt them and hurt them emotionally.

They mostly “stuff it on our noses” later and don’t forget. In time, they can even understand why we did something, but we could talk about their readiness to forgive us…

2 Things That Kids Won’t Forgive You

Broken Promises

I almost didn’t stumble on this. This was one of the first lessons I taught them – keeping promises and keeping my word. I wrote a text about that, whose link will be at the end and which I suggest you read.

If you have no way to fulfill a promise to your child, don’t make a promise! Point. The only way for children to understand the importance of their word tomorrow is for you to keep yours today. So, just an example will tell them everything.

I have a few people nearby who knew how to promise children many things and break those promises without even dreaming of what awaits them… And the reason was some temporary extinguishing of the fire and calming the situation in which it seemed convenient to promise children something just to buy time. Well, that’s a big mistake. Because of that feeling of betrayal children don’t forget. It’s a disappointment that is somehow etched and hard to drive away, even as the kids grow up.

The thing with promises is simple, you promise – you fulfill, the end.

Disrespect

Many parents believe that children are small and will forget everything.  They believe that children are not equal to adults, so they underestimate their achievements and successes, which are mostly small, just like them.

Fragile, tender, eager for love, approval, and attention, a cheerful child’s soul will have the desire to praise it for something, and you think it’s nothing special and you say it, not knowing how much you hurt the child like that.

It’s amazing how severe the consequences of such parental behavior can be. So much so that even later when children’s successes become great and when they build careers, one may wonder if what they are doing is good and great, because they are shaken by the self-confidence of those who first needed to feel that value and greatness.

For The End

So, be careful what you promise your children. Be careful what and how you tell them about what they do. Be careful in your behavior, be wise and skillful, never reckless… Here is enough for each of us, and that is to remember our childhood, not to repeat the mistakes of our parents because we know very well what those are. Also, we need to remember their best actions and apply them, because they will certainly have a positive impact on the upbringing of our children.

Every parent is sinful, there is no need to doubt it at all, but we must not be unconscious, on the contrary, we should be aware of what we are doing and not repeat the old mistakes.

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