14 Things You Need To Forget When You Enter Your Forties

14 Things You Need To Forget When You Enter Your Forties Sometimes our lives can be reduced to pleasing everyone except ourselves. No matter what anyone thinks about it, it’s so silly and unnatural, and at the same time unfair to oneself. Who will love you and take care of you if you don’t do it yourself? No one! If you don’t have self-confidence, firmness, character, and your SELF, you are not good for yourself or others.

 

 

14 Things You Need To Forget When You Enter Your Forties

The Comfort In Your Own Skin Is Important

When I look in my life rear view mirror, I have spent more than half of my life constantly worrying about what someone else will think or say. I was very often uncomfortable in my skin, looking through other people’s attitudes, opinions and constantly correcting myself. After a sea of ​​dissatisfaction and an uncomfortable feeling, instead of a feeling of personal satisfaction, you stop and say enough is enough! At one point it was as if I was breaking the clamps and chains, I felt freedom and comfort in my skin, even though neither that skin nor I was perfect.

Who else needs someone perfect and what does it even mean to reach some perfection. What is perfect for me is total imperfection and ruin for someone. It’s not said in vain that we are not all the same and that we should not be. But the aspiration to keep up with ourselves and take the best from our lives is the only real aspiration and path that leads to all those wonderful places we have never been before …

Here is what my years, experiences, and feelings of discomfort have taught me. First of all to forget some things that didn’t bring me any good. It was only when I forgot them that I began to enjoy the daily feeling of freedom that gave me wings, broadened my horizons, put a smile on my face, and nodded my head in approval. I longed for the moment when nothing but good feeling and striving for that feeling, is and will not matter…

 

 

14 Things You Need To Forget When You Enter Your Forties

14 Things I Have In Mind Every Day:

 

I Forgot How I Look To Other People

I was tormented by gray hair, I didn’t like my wrinkles, my kilograms, which would accumulate in an instant… Not even a few millimeters of gray hair could be seen under the die that had to be with me, ready at all times. And then the men helped me a lot… and their natural, God-given charm, without any desire to shine and hide the trace of their age.

I watched how relaxed they were and how they enjoyed themselves, their body, their naturalness. And I realized that a man is what he is and that he is the most perfect just the way God created him. Therefore, if you love yourself as you are and do not run to correct any of your imperfections, others will also love you and accept you as such. Even if that doesn’t happen, does it matter ?!

 

Goodbye To Silence And Nodding

If I don’t like something or it doesn’t suit me, I don’t keep quiet anymore, but I say it openly. Of course, I do not intend to enter into discussions and conflicts, but I say what I think and go further. Why would I allow anyone to change my opinion and attitudes, just to make someone else feel satisfied? That’s it. If I realize that someone has been wronged I will say it openly, not bothering too much with the consequences. I want to say my opinion and attitude, I don’t want to be silent and nod my head.

 

I Forgot To Put Up With The Wrong People And Awkward Situations

When you don’t like something, you just turn around and walk away. It is very important to leave toxic circumstances and toxic people. There is nothing worse than giving your time and attention to someone who did not deserve it. Life is too short to waste even one minute of it on situations and people who make us unhappy, dissatisfied, who make us suffer and feel bad in their presence.

 

I Forgot That Sins Exist

When some sin is on your mind, the time for it is as much right away. You want ice cream, you eat ice cream, you want a glass of wine, you pour it and drink it… Why would you postpone your small pleasures for any reason? It’s a madness learned a long time ago, misapplied for years, and the benefit from it is minimal or non-existent. If you want something, then you need to afford it, because when a you add everything up in your life, it is precisely these small pleasures and sins that are happy and what is remembered.

 

 

I’m Too Old To Wear Uncomfortable Shoes

I forgot that shoes should be elegant. For me, footwear is a mirror of comfort and a good feeling that I am so shod at all times that I am ready for anything. If you have to stand in those shoes for hours, run, drive, go out to the town, go to work – I’m ready. Goodbye to uncomfortable shoes – it was my most beautiful farewell and farewell greeting. No limited movements, no blisters, pain, no desire to undress as soon as possible.

 

I Forgot About Collecting

I don’t want to clutter my living space with things I haven’t used, worn in over two years. Goodbye, if I need anything, I’ll buy a new one. And when I’m cluttered with things and when my living space becomes a warehouse, then it’s like I don’t have room for that something new that needs to come to me. It was as if I had created dams and barriers by rejecting the new blessings of life. So goodbye to unused and old things I don’t need anymore. As soon as you free up your living space, it immediately seems that you sent life a message that you are ready for something new.

 

I Forgot To Apologize To People For What I Am

You like me or you don’t like me, it’s none of my business anymore. Why would my mood be caused by people’s affection for me? There are so many who I love, who love me, and who are aware of all my qualities. Why would I, at this age, try to gain the favor of people that I may not have chosen or their opinion doesn’t matter to me at all ?!

People who are insecure about their behavior and who do not have enough self-confidence may try to destroy your personality and character. But it’s important not to let them and be who you are. If you know that you are a good person and that you are worth it, be who you are, crazy as you think you should be and silly as much as you want, and don’t apologize to anyone for that.

 

14 Things You Need To Forget When You Enter Your Forties

I Am Too Old To See The Good In Every Man

A few good people are enough to make a person happy. Of course, if the person is normal and can recognize the quality that is in other people. The desire to see the good in every person ceases with years and experience. Why would we waste energy and time plucking from some people what they don’t even have? We don’t need that. We only need a few good people, just as they need us.

 

I’m Too Old To Allow Not Being Paid Enough

If you feel underpaid, don’t keep quiet about it. Openly say that you think you deserve more and ask for a salary increase based on your qualities and your work. Highlight your skills, present the facts, demand that you be adequately paid, and do not give up the intention to prove how much you are worth and that in financial terms, that value is recognized.

 

I Am Too Old To Faint From Fatigue Due To The Clutter In The House And That

I remember a time when everything was more important to me than a vacation. But I also remember the dissatisfaction and negativity that erupted from me. Every time I would postpone the vacation, to tidy up the living space and to keep everything around me perfectly clean. And seemingly everything was great. Other than me. I felt chronic tired.

Today, priorities have changed. First me, and then everything else, because that’s the only way I can function normally. And it’s not scary if a day later the laundry is ironed or one day there is no lunch in the house. This is a real discovery, and sometimes a kind of adventure!

 

Forget About Inconsistent Men

A woman with age realizes (luckily so) that an inconsistent man is not her man. If he is not ready to offer you something, except sex for one night, what will you do?! Today, there are many more men who are not ready to make an effort to win over one romantic mature woman. And that’s okay. If a man is not honest and open in terms of what he offers you, if you have to analyze everything, read his thoughts, assume, initiate, then it’s time to say goodbye.

Honest, open communication, love, and attention, in an age of floods of abnormal relationships and some “modern” relationships, have become a rarity, but they are still my choice. Point. If there is someone to whom you will be a challenge, who will recognize your qualities, and who will make an effort to be a part of your life, it will be a wonderful experience. Why deny it to yourself ?!

 

You Are Too Old To Compare Yourself To Others

When you forget about this childhood disease, life becomes completely different. In the age of social networks, photography with fake glow and smiles, photoshopped bodies, and tuned lives is not easy to be and stay yourself. And the task is just that, to be what you are, to be satisfied with that, to change only if you want to, and not to compare yourself with anyone. Each of us on this journey is alone and creating our happiness. Comparing with anyone only creates self-doubt, and what will your doubt be?!

 

Forget The Past Too

Who cares about the past! I always do the best I can and know in the given circumstances. Maybe so much could have been done differently in the past, but there is no going back. If you look back too much, you again deprive yourself of the present moment and narrow your room for maneuver. And here are the opportunities for new failures.

Thank you for everything in the past, thanks to her today we are where we are and we’re moving forward. With the help of the present moment in which we need to be completely conscious and present, it’s easiest to build our new tomorrow.

 

Never Pretend To Be Okay

You should not indulge in emotions to the point that they manage you for a long time. But if it’s not your moment or day, why would you pretend everything is okay. One cannot be happy at all times, regardless of the aspiration to be. So you need to give yourself time and face the feelings, get sick, agree to a bad moment or day, and realize that it will pass.

 

 

14 Things You Need To Forget When You Enter Your Forties

Last Thoughts

There are no real years that will give a person fulfillment and happiness. There is only the right moment in which each of us will realize that the right time has come. Why? Because the desire to turn to oneself, to fall in love, to be the best version of oneself, and not the whole world, will at one point become stronger than anything. It took me a lot of time and stumbling to realize that pleasure and peace, that self-love, that the struggle for a good feeling, is not sin and narcissism. They are the essential need of every living creature who will at one point nod his head feeling that his moment has come.

If your life is reduced to everything except you in it, what is it that you’ll tell someone about yourself, how will you tell them that you lived if you didn’t experience anything?! So, the moment you feel your time has come, you will recognize it. How? By the smile, the joy, the happiness, all that will come out of you and with which you will infect this grumpy world by doing a great service to yourself and the small number of people who will have the privilege of being with you.

Don’t forget the basic aspiration of every normal person – to live life in the most beautiful way possible, to dance in your rhythm, to breathe to the bottom of your lungs, to love, to nurture the best in yourself, to laugh, to rejoice, to stay young in spirit… 14 Things You Need To Forget When You Enter Your Forties

 

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